I met Vironika about a year ago in our mutual friend Reba’s Facebook group Leaders in Self-Love. Vironika and I bonded on the topic and connected outside group, found we had a lot in common and a friendship was formed. Vironika was kind enough to ask me to write for her site The Real Us which offers inspirational stories, poems and more. It has a beautiful community and is a place I always know I can visit if I need that dose of inspiration. Since, I have been inspired by Vironika on several occasions, her words not only on her site but within groups and communities, her interactions with others, her passion for life and helping others and creating shines through in whatever she does. I am excited to read Vironika’s book and am certain it will be inspiring and offer amazing tools. It is my honor, pleasure and delight to bring you the Aligned and Inspiring Vironika Tugaleva.
AIM Spotlight for Vironika Tugaleva
BIOGRAPHY: Like every human being, Vironika Tugaleva is an ever-changing mystery. At the time of writing this, she was a life coach, world traveler, and award-winning author of two books (The Love Mindset and The Art of Talking to Yourself). She spent her days writing, dancing, singing, running, doing yoga, going on adventures, and having long conversations. But that was then. Who knows what she’s doing now? Keep up at www.vironika.org.
1) Please tell us a quote that you aim to live by- whether it be your own or from someone else that has inspired you.
I tend to cycle through quotes that are important to me, so my answer to this might be different by the time this interview gets published! But one of my long-term favourites is this one by Robert Prisig:
“The truth knocks on the door and you say, go away, I’m looking for the truth, and it goes away. Puzzling.”
This quote, for me, is a reminder more than anything. To keep my eyes open. To remember to look around and let life teach me the way to live.
2) Tell us about a moment when one of your greatest shifts occurred in your life or in one of your clients’ lives.
When I was in my early twenties, I had a mental health crisis. I conceptualized it, at the time, as a mental breakdown. It turned out to be the best thing that had ever happened to me. Through self-awareness, I found a way out of chronic anxiety, self-loathing, and addiction. I very nearly escaped death, and I am forever grateful for my new life.
I also went through another major transformation a few years ago while trying to write my second book. I had been in the self-help world for a few years by then, and I realized I wasn’t being authentic. This was a painful discovery, but it led me to writing more honestly than I ever thought I could. The truth knocked at my door, and I answered. I didn’t like what it had to say, but I listened.
I realized how much of the self-help world was overrun with consumerism. It wasn’t about helping people. It was about helping people buy some miracle product or magic fix. I realized that, in my own way, I was contributing to that broken system.
This realization inspired many of the ideas in my second book. I wanted to not only make people aware of some of the dangers of self-help as it exists today, but also to inspire them to help themselves. To explore themselves. To look within instead of always seeking for wiser authorities and experts.
3) Please let us know and describe one to three things that you are passionate about in what you do – (for work or for play or both)
I love writing. I’ve been writing since I was a child—poetry, songs, stories, thoughts. Of course, that also means I love reading.
I’m also passionate about being active. I love running, hiking, yoga, dancing, walking, swimming. I struggled, for many years, with body hatred and eating disorders. Now, I have formed a deep relationship with my muscles, my bones, my skin. It’s one of the most fulfilling relationships in my life!
I also adore nature: sunsets, mountains, oceans, animals, and, of course, human beings. I feel enthralled by the beauty of the world all around and within me. There is always something new to explore!
4) If you could give one piece of advice, one action to take, or one tool to empower people right now what would that be?
I can’t really give one, to be honest. I think the most important thing we can learn to do is become self-aware, to learn to listen to ourselves with kindness—but that looks different for everyone.
There is no one advice, one action, or one tool that would help every person reading this right now. Even self-awareness, which I think is so crucial, is something we all have to discover in our own unique ways. We’re all multi-dimensional, beautiful universes. Every person is a mystery. And each of us has to perform the difficult and worthwhile task of decoding that mystery for ourselves.
It’s not answers we need. It’s questions. Wonder. Explore. Be curious. Discover yourself with the same passion you’d discover someone you truly love. The best advice I could give is to stop seeking advice and start seeking truth.
5) If you were to offer one of your services or products that best represents what you do, what would it be and how can the readers find out more?
I just released my second book, “The Art of Talking to Yourself”. I tried my best to make it into an honest mirror for the human experience rather than a manual of tricks, tactics, and advice.
Much of modern-day marketing says to give 50% of what you know and keep the rest for your high-priced program that you sell people on at the end of the book. I wanted to do the opposite. I put everything I have into that book, and out of integrity, I also decided that it will be my last self-help book. I will be moving onto poetry and fiction after this. It’s been an incredible, mind-opening journey writing this book, and I can only hope that my words will be as inspiring to read as they were to write.
Thank you spotlight guests for your words of inspiration!