I was introduced to the beautiful Felicia through our mutual friend, Linda Joy and what a gift that meeting was! Felicia is someone when you talk to – it comes easy. Her comfortability with herself makes you feel at ease, and her passion for helping others and authenticity shines through. Her beauty is not only on the outside – but you feel that love and beauty radiating from within. Felicia and I share many interests such as dancing, psychology and a passion for helping others bring change to their lives as painlessly as possible! I believe whole heartedly in Felicia’s approach to life and helping others and it is an absolute pleasure to bring her words of wisdom to you today which touched me deeply! Please help me welcome Felicia and visit her website to see her amazing offerings.
P.S. Throughout the Aligned and Inspired Monday series this year, I’ve had some incredible people featured here and have received some very wonderful feedback from you all. I am so glad you’ve enjoyed meeting these special friends of mine! Just wanted to announce that I will now be doing this as a monthly feature instead of weekly so you can still look forward to continued introductions to some amazingly talented and inspiring folks.
AIM Spotlight for Felicia Baucom
BIOGRAPHY: Transformational coach with an Information Technology background
~ Married to Milton, whom she affectionately calls a nerd, and they care for 4 cats – Oliver, Ginger, Chloe, and Avery
~ Grew up in different places in the US and overseas – the Philippines and the UK
~ Always had a passion for studying human and group behavior
~ Has an eclectic taste in music and enjoys traveling, coffee, tea, wine, slow-burning dramas on Netflix, dancing Nia, and walking in the woods, preferably in the Fall and Winter months. Spring rolls and tacos are weaknesses.
1) Please tell us a quote that you aim to live by- whether it be your own or from someone else that has inspired you.
I love this quote by Dr. Seuss – “ Why fit in when you were born to stand out?”
He seemed to be a person who was playful and subversive, and he knew that trying to tell a blatant moral story would be a turnoff to many people. And I appreciate that.
Anyway, so this quote was really quite simple but meaningful, and it’s a reminder that each of us is unique and can express our authentic selves. But you’ve probably been taught from a young age to comply, to fit-in. You probably learned what your parents approved of and didn’t, so you shaped your perspective and behavior based on that. You probably learned that your social self, the part of you that follows the rules and does the “right” things, gets the good grades or invitations to parties or asked out on dates, not your real self. Eventually you learned you’re supposed to make your life fit a mold, an ideal. If it does, you find you’re still not happy because it feels empty somehow. If it doesn’t fit the ideal, you feel like a failure. Either way you’re unhappy. And maybe you feel trapped and powerless, stuck in a life that you feel you have to get-through.
This quote is a reminder that it’s okay to go against the grain. To tune into what feels open and expansive versus closed and shut-down. And if I feel closed and shut-down, I explore why that is. Sometimes it’s discomfort because it’s something like public speaking or it’s something I’ve never done before, other times it’s because I feel like I “should” when the thing in question may not be right for me, and maybe there’s some way to tweak that. From there an action feels more real, more authentic. It’s inspired action, which is much more meaningful and satisfying. And it’s much easier to act from that place.
2) Tell us about a moment when one of your greatest shifts occurred in your life or in one of your clients’ lives.
I had a client named Sonja who was going through some career challenges. She made an effort to resolve challenges in her personal life through coaching, career counseling, and mentorship but was not quite able to sort out her career. She took tests and assessments to find the right type of job for her skills and personality (I took many tests myself, I think I took the MBTI twice). She changed jobs frequently, hoping to find the right environment for her, and she tried her own business.
She didn’t want to just up and leave her job, but something needed to change.
One thing that opened things up for her was a question I asked about her genius and how she would like to use it. And from there sparked a new business idea that she ran with, which led to her resigning from her soul-sucking job. She’s so much happier now that she’s following her dream and she has the time and energy to devote to her family. In fact, since working with her she had another son!
Some years ago I used to participate in an organization that was then known as the Life’s Work Center. While the ideas presented there were based off the book “What Color is Your Parachute,” engaging with others and receiving their feedback helped spark ideas for me and the direction I wanted to go… although it was some time before I actually implemented them.
I share both stories because sometimes challenges can help you get clear about what you want for yourself – and even what you don’t want – and the work you want to do in the world. All the tests and online advice can give clues, what may work, what may not, they are useful that way, and ultimately compassionate observation from others can help to steer you a direction that’s aligned for you.
3) Please let us know and describe one to three things that you are passionate about in what you do – (for work or for play or both)
Travel – I grew up traveling as a child and I kept that up as much as I could as an adult. I like to explore new places, check out the scenery, see how the trees and architecture are different from the ones at home, and meet people. On one recent trip to Utah I met Martha Beck! I’ve also traveled to California for a few 3-day business events which were quite fun and was a great way to network with like-minded people, which is so important as a solopreneur.
I’m not afraid to travel alone, although I do stay away from the dangerous places. So to date I’ve only traveled across the U.S. and to Europe by myself. My husband and I do local getaways quite frequently.
Sometimes I was afraid to step on the plane, but I did it anyway because I saw what was on the other side of that. Often in life, whether it’s travel or something else, it’s helpful to see what’s possible, instead of giving in to fear, and not take chances.
The Monkees – speaking of traveling, I went to New York to go to two concerts in the NYC area. At the first concert on Long Island I was invited on stage to sing Daydream Believer with them. This was exciting of course because I’ve been a longtime fan. I “met” Peter, Davy, and Micky in Charlotte, North Carolina in 1996 and got their autographs on my Headquarters album. It wasn’t until 2013 when I met Michael Nesmith in Atlanta and got his autograph.
Anyway, so my passion for The Monkees stems, in part, from the fact that they did things differently for their time. They broke the 4th wall frequently on their show and the same Headquarters album was a break from the corporate big wigs who initially handled their music. Also they were eye-candy (not the big-wigs, the guys themselves).
And Headquarters is my favorite of the original 9 albums because it felt more authentic to me, and they collaborated well (from what I can tell anyway, unfortunately I wasn’t the fly on the wall). They had more commercial success with the first 2 albums, but they felt it didn’t truly reflect them, which for at least half of the group was a problem. So they took matters into their own hands and chose another path.
4) If you could give one piece of advice, one action to take, or one tool to empower people right now what would that be?
This is a quote from a recent Aspire Magazine article I wrote: “Your life is happening now. Follow the joy and show up for the moments you have.”
Maybe life is not particularly grand right now, especially with all the challenges in the world these days. You don’t have that picture perfect life that you can show-off on Instagram or Facebook. Maybe in some ways you feel trapped or powerless in a job or relationship where you don’t feel free to be your true self and you’re too exhausted to even try. It’s still possible to have the life that you want. Perhaps it’s only in small ways at first, but you can always find some way to feel joy. Because joy is inside you and you still have the power to experience that, even if for only a few moments each day.
You always have a choice to change your inner world – which in turn can help you change the outer world.
I say this while also recognizing that there is plenty of outer world stuff that needs to change regardless of how people feel about themselves, so that everyone regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, spiritual beliefs, physical abilities, etc. can feel more free to authentically express their true selves. And… you don’t have to wait for the world to change.
5) If you were to offer one of your services or products that best represents what you do, what would it be and how can the readers find out more?
I have a 6-month program called Unlock Your Soul’s Potential.
In this program, you will rediscover and reawaken your authentic self and create a life you love by:
- Creating a blueprint for the dream life or career you’ve been longing for.
- Tapping into your inner wisdom so that you can move forward based on your honest guidance.
- Identifying your core values so that you can move beyond any “should” or “have tos” and live with balance and ease.
- Transforming old stories so you can leave them behind and step forward with confidence.
- Rising above confusion and uncertainty so you can make conscious, soul-filled choices.
- Nourishing yourself with a self-care plan so you get your needs met every day – not just while you’re on vacation
If you feel like the JOY is missing from your life and you’re simply going through the motions, this program will give you the support you need to say YES to yourself so you can live in alignment with your values, needs, and wants – even when life gets complicated or messy. (and it will!) Go to www.marchtoyourowndrum.com/work-with-me/ to learn more!
You are also welcome to sign up for a free copy of Felicia’s book, “5 Ways to Create a Life You Love”. Sign up here!
Thank you spotlight guests for your words of inspiration!