The Universe is Always Speaking to You – Are You Listening?

We are constantly receiving messages to keep our lives flowing effortlessly.  Most of us are wrapped up in the constant distractions, our lifelong patterns and the WAY WE HAVE decided things SHOULD BE/GO.  When we are so attached to our own stories and distractions we are truly resisting the Universes’ wisdom instead of allowing it to work WITH us.  The good news is we always have the option to tune in and ask ourselves, “are we resisting the flow or moving along with it?”. I would like to share a recent story in my own life where I had to overcome what I WANTED and THOUGHT I KNEW was best for me to “let go and bring myself back into flow”. I will also share a quick way to assess if you are in flow and to open yourself up to regaining that ease that is always available to us.

About 7 months ago I received wonderful news.  The book I have been writing for the last 2 years was accepted by a well known publisher. I was ecstatic but also now had a DEADLINE. I had written a little more than half of the book in 2 years and was now expected to write the next half in 7 months.  Everything had fallen into place quickly, I had a series of synchronistic events that led to me being able to present to the publisher and have it accepted, I met the perfect editor for my book and the words were flowing effortlessly whenever I did find/make the time to write. I was thrilled and all seemed to be very in flow.

Then “life” happened, as things came up as they often do and I refused to listen to the signs but continued to press on with my own agenda and schedule.  My step dad who had been in my life for 36 years became very ill suddenly and I watched as his life force and love of life dwindled away and left him 40 pounds lighter, a shadow of who he was, until he passed 6 months later, in late July 2014.  My children were very close to him, my mom IS my best friend, and being an only child, I knew I wanted to and needed to be there to be PRESENT for my family.  

My daughter is beginning middle school and had shown signs of stress as she readies for it. This along with the death of her grandfather and Robin Williams (her favorite actor/comedian) left her in a state of needing more attention and I wanted to be even more present for her and keep conversations going and open about the emotions she was going through.  My stress mounted any time I thought about or sat down to write my book, as I had my regular business to attend to, my house to upkeep, the summer that I wanted to participate in and not just watch go by, and the want/need to be there for my family. 

In the midst of all of this I was given a blessing from the Universe. A love and a man surpassing all possible expectations.  I had written my manifestation list (yup 2 page list) 😉 of what I wanted in a life partner but when he showed up my first thought was, “I said NOT UNTIL I FINISH MY BOOK UNIVERSE”!  He was everything on my list and some things I didn’t even know existed, but I resisted for all it was worth and watched every single fear come up. In time I did recognize the huge gift of his presence in my life and was able to sink totally into the feeling of love, knowing the Universe knows best and there was a reason he had arrived at this time.  He was there for me when my step dad was in his last stages and passed, he was there for me as I stressed out about finishing my book and he proved that even as challenging as life was becoming, there was also love, light and gifts beyond measure to receive from the Universe.  

While I was falling deeply in love I was aware that I DID suddenly want to spend each spare moment with him and when I wasn’t with him I was in that lala stage of thinking about him pretty constantly. I knew that also was taking up some of my time but it was also granting me JOY at a time when I was experiencing a lot of pain.  I still plodded along, changing my writing schedule to include the lofty task of writing 2-3 chapters a week instead of the 1 as the deadline approached.  I did recognize the words were NOT flowing as easily as they had. Now when I sat down to write I wasn’t just filled with the usual JOY of writing but also felt the stress of the deadline looming.  Soon-after, my editor who has been so wonderful, supportive and perfect in my creative process told me he could not possibly edit for the next month or so as his work tasks were picking up and even asked me if I could postpone the deadline. I finally had to listen.

In my head I had built up that postponing was some kind of “failure”. I had waited my whole life to be a published author. WAS this some kind of test that I had failed? My publishing company was clear on the deadline and let me know IF I wanted to be published by the fall of next year I WOULD need my COMPLETED book in by October 1, 2014.  I stressed, moped, cried, got angry and went through every possible emotion before I simply got very still, put my hand on my heart and asked, “What is in my best interest right now”?  The answer came so effortlessly that I was to contact my publisher and see what my options are. Also a KNOWING that putting off my book was NOT a failure but rather me looking out for myself and my loved ones as the last thing I wanted was to ADD to their stress – I wanted to be a help FOR THEM.  Contacting the publisher went better than I could have expected. She responded with warmth, understanding and told me if I got my book in by February it would be in the winter catalog instead of the fall catalog.  It all suddenly felt in flow again as I felt this huge stress that I had created release.

I don’t know why my book is delayed but I have no doubt it is in my best interest. Maybe it will be better received in the winter. Possibly I will be  learning something else that I would not have been able to incorporate if I had rushed to get it done. Perhaps my book will be THAT MUCH better because I will be writing from that place of ease and passion again instead of it feeling like a stressor. WHATEVER the reason(s) – I know it IS the way of flow. The relief I feel and joy and flow I have felt writing since is a sure fire indicator I am once again on the right path. Waiting 5 more months for something I have wanted since I was a child is not TOO much to ask Universe – I hear you and I AM listening.

A HUGE lesson I have learned in my last seven years of studying spirituality and personal development is that when we claim we KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR US and the TIMELINE in which it is to be delivered.. more often than not we are NOT seeing the complete picture and there IS a BETTER way. It is in trusting, listening and NOT resisting that we can see that path and FIND our way.  The Universe IS always trying to show us the easiest and most advantageous path if we ARE willing to listen. 

The next time you feel “thrown off track” or like the Universe is conspiring against you, stop and get quiet, turn OFF the phone and distractions. Put your hand on your heart and ask WHY this might be happening and what IS the path of least resistance to lead you back into flow. Where is your YES and what feels good to you when you think about the next step? What ARE all your options? Try and notice what you are demanding of the Universe and the timeline you have insisted on and see if you can understand another way it can go that might BENEFIT you instead of creating stress.  We always have a path to take that is of less resistance. We have ALL experienced that state of flow where we feel life can seem almost magical – even if for a few moments. When we are on that path we truly do feel in flow, ease, joy which is how life is supposed to be. This is ALWAYS available to us – turn within and ask how you can return to this state and the answers WILL be waiting for you. Then relax and enjoy the ease, flow and JOY this brings!  Good luck on your journey and thank you for reading about my own.

Gratitude – The Easiest and Most Powerful Healing Tool of them All!

GratitudeGratitude is one of the most powerful tools I know for shifting energy around any situation or relationship.  So many times we are focused on what we don’t want, don’t like or are worried about what will be. We judge situations and deem them “bad” and also are our own toughest critics.  We become wrapped up in our own minds and patterns of thought and sometimes days, weeks or even longer periods of time can pass without us taking that time to truly FEEL gratitude in us for all the things that ARE working in our lives.

My friend Zeenat, from Positive Provocations asked me to write a post (along with other blogging friends) that will be posted on her blog on her birthday, Saturday, September 28, 2013.  Please visit to bask in Zeenat’s amazing healing and loving energy and her beautiful outlook on life and to send her birthday wishes! I am also including a very special offer and gift for her birthday via that post. Her request inspired me not only to write this longer post about gratitude with exercises but also to show my gratitude to my subscribers. If you book a session in the next 72 hours – before Wednesday 11PM Eastern Standard Time.. I will give you a 1/2 price rate on ANY service (and Yes, that WILL include multiple services). Just a little THANK YOU for your love and support over the years. You can visit my services page and my Akashic page for more information and look at my testimonials to learn about other’s experiences in working with me.

Having been so ill for over 6 years I remember clearly how easy it is to be caught up in all the things I couldn’t “do, be or have in my life” instead of focusing on what I DID have. I still maintain that gratitude was one of the most instrumental tools allowing me to heal myself in three short weeks.  So how CAN we show gratitude and what are the easiest ways to bring this daily practice into your life? There are several ways I have found VERY effective to bring the MAGICAL energy of gratitude into your life:

1)  Make a list – of the first 10 things that come to mind that you are grateful for. (There are ALWAYS things to be grateful for – a roof over your head, food, friends, family, a pet, the health that you DO have).

2)  Make a list of 10 things you love about yourself. These can be hobbies that bring YOU joy or aspects of yourself.. are you a good listener?  Kind? Generous? So often we repeat to ourselves what we DON’T like about ourselves – this is a powerful exercise in affirming our self love. 

3)  In the morning or at night before bed the mind is in its most receptive state.  It is also the time we are known to “Worry”. Use this time to take a minute or two and reallllly think deeply about a few things you are grateful for and all the aspects that make that person or situation a gift in your life.

4)  Tell someone that you care about that you are grateful for them. You will make their day and warm your own heart in the process.

5)  Make a Gratitude Journal – at the end of every day or even sporadically during the day – write down things that made you smile, happy or brought a sense of relief to your life.

These are just a few simple and easy ways to express gratitude. There are many ways to express gratitude and as you begin to it raises your energetic vibration allowing MORE things to be grateful to come into your life. How do you express your gratitude toward life and all the wonderful things in it?



How Can Meditation Help Addiction?

It is my pleasure to bring you this guest post by Jennifer Koebele. Thank you Jennifer!



For many of us, being caught in the grips of an addiction is a potentially life-destroying thing, causing many years of suffering, confusion and self-loathing along the way. Addictions come in all forms, and we are aware of the fact that all too often, we do not realize that we even have any sort of problem or compulsive behavior until we have already gotten ourselves tangled and trapped in a web of addiction, denial, and serious difficulty.

An addiction is essentially a mental – or occasionally a physical – compulsion to a particular substance or process, brought about by an imbalanced psychological response to pleasure or comfort. Research consistently shows that almost anything can become addictive with time, even substances which are widely regarding to be ‘non-addictive’, meaning that the spectrum of addictions and the ways to deal with them is an extremely broad one. Many people try to shake addictions through abstinence, through slow and steady rehabilitation, through replacing one substance with another, or through all manner of counseling, therapy and treatments. However, it is a sad fact that a high percentage of addicts will often relapse back into addictive behaviors, with each and every relapse making it harder and harder to quit once and for all.


The Sacral Chakra


According to experts within the field of energy healing, addictive tendencies arise due to an imbalance of the body’s energies. In particular, they point to the body’s second main energy center, the Sacral chakra, located around the groin area. The body’s chakras are essentially powerful vortexes of energy which oversee the physical, mental, and spiritual health of an individual, and which can have a significant effect on the way our bodies respond to various stimuli. For example, a blockage or problem with the heart chakra can result in not only cardiovascular problems, and other difficulties relating to the physical heart, but also in a wide range of emotional problems and frustrations relating to empathy, sympathy, love and the ability to express affection. The Sacral chakra relates to things such as our sex drive, and our pleasure centers. A blockage or leakage of energy from this particular chakra is often related to selfishness, sexual dysfunction, addictive or compulsive behaviors and an unhealthy relationship with sensory pleasure and self-satisfaction. As such, if you are suffering from addiction, there is a high likelihood that your second, Sacral chakra is blocked and not spinning and radiating powerful positive energies they way that it would in a normal and healthy individual.


Natural Solutions


Thankfully, there are many natural, safe and relatively simple solutions to addiction which can genuinely help you back on the road to recovery, and which work positively with your body’s energies to ensure you restore a natural balance and harmony within yourself. By working with your natural energy sources, you can relatively quickly heal blocked chakras, and pave the path to a strong and reliable recovery which will equip you with the tools to pick yourself back up again swiftly and effectively should you relapse back into old habits. Meditation is a vital method for self-healing and dealing with addiction, as it invites a sense of peace and space back into your mind which is constantly being pulled towards an addictive substance, and which needs to quiet down and put itself back in order again. Meditation has been practiced for thousands of years around the globe, and is proven to have a highly positive effect on our lives, and in particular, in the way we see ourselves. When we are struggling with addiction, it is all too easy to slip into a state of self-loathing, something which quickly creates a vicious downward circle. Meditation can give you the peace of mind and sense of perspective required to overcome such feelings, and fix your priorities as well as teach you to love and respect yourself and your own inner strength.


By combining meditative practices with Sacral chakra healing, you can piece together a routine for helping yourself escape addictive habits and tendencies. Try to take out a minimum of twenty minutes each day to sit still, breathe deeply and empty your mind of frustration and negativity. Focus on your sacral area, and visualize powerful healing energies returning to this part of your body. It may help to repeat positive affirmations to yourself while doing this, such as ‘I am strong enough to escape addiction’ and ‘I believe I can succeed’, over and over again. This will invite positive energies back into your body, and such a routine can make a powerful and lasting difference to your life.


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Thank you for this insightful article Jennifer!

Jennifer Koebele is a writer with an interest in personal development and a passion for making a difference in people’s lives.  She is particularly interested in yoga, meditation, and chakra healing.  You can find Jennifer’s articles on,, and other Mindvalley’s websites.